Forced to choose because of circumstances

 No experience is in itself a cause of our success or failure. So we make of them whatever suits our purposes? We determine our own lives according to the meaning we give to those past experiences. Your life is not something that someone gives you, but something you choose yourself, and you are the one who decides how you live. Okay, so you're saying that my friend has shut himself in his room because he actually chooses to live this way? Believe me, it is not what he wants. If anything, it's something he was forced to choose because of circumstances. He had no choice other than to become who he is now. Even supposing that your friend actually thinks, I can't fit into society because I was abused by my parents, it's still because it is his goal to think that way. What sort of goal is that? The immediate thing would probably be the goal of not going out. He is creating anxiety and fear as his reasons to stay inside. But why doesn't he want to go out? That's where

The capacity and freedom to move toward the inclination

 In our culture we tend to equate thinking and intellectual powers with success and achievement. In many ways, however, it is an emotional quality that separates those who master a field from the many who simply work at a job. Our levels of desire, patience, persistence, and confidence end up playing a much larger role in success than sheer reasoning powers. Feeling motivated and energized, we can overcome almost anything. Feeling bored and restless, our minds shut off and we become increasingly passive. In the past, only elites or those with an almost superhuman amount of energy and drive could pursue a career of their choice and master it. A man was born into the military, or groomed for the government, chosen among those of the right class. If he happened to display a talent and desire for such work it was mostly a coincidence. Millions of people who were not part of the right social class, gender, and ethnic group were rigidly excluded from the possibility of pursuing their calling

Many people have stopped giving reasons of their own

 Even thoughtful tweets and blog posts are often greeted with contempt, gibes, humor, and abuse by Internet trolls. Moderate opinions encounter immoderate insults that masquerade as wit and spread willful misinterpretation of opponents. The Web makes it easier for large numbers of critics to attack quickly, viciously, and thoughtlessly. This new medium and culture reward bluster instead of modesty and leave little incentive to be caring or careful, fair or factual, trustworthy or thoughtful. Rhetoric gains likes. Reason receives dislikes. The medium that should be our tool shapes our actions and goals. This dark picture is not always accurate, of course, but it is too accurate too often. Sometimes people avoid talking with each other. Even when they do talk, there is little communication of ideas on important issues. Politicians cannot work together, at least partly because they do not understand each other. Opponents will never agree to bear their share of the burden if they do not un